“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?’
‘That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,’ said the Cat.
‘I don’t much care where -‘ said Alice.
‘Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,’ said the Cat.
‘- so long as I get SOMEWHERE,’ Alice added as an explanation.
‘Oh, you’re sure to do that,’ said the Cat, ‘if you only walk long enough.”
If you are as big of a Disney fanatic and/or bookworm as I am, you’ll recognize this excerpt from Lewis Carroll’s Alice in Wonderland. This is one that I read many years ago and many times since, although it has not been until recently that this quote began to have significant importance to me.
In life, there are various points where you begin to question yourself, your career, and your goals. You wonder where you should go. Many times we, like Alice, find ourselves wandering around in a Wonderland where our expectations and presumptions are continuously being tested and compromised; usually for the good, but at times with more negative consequences than positive.
It’s in our human nature to feel the desire to succeed. No one wants to work hard and feel like they have gotten nowhere, they just want a simple answer to “which way [they] ought to go from here”. And well, there is no simple answer to that. Many of us walk and walk and walk and feel we aren’t getting where we want, but in reality all we knew is we wanted to be somewhere, we just didn’t give enough thought as to where.
So you need to determine, what does success mean to you? Where do you want to go? What do you want to become? Where do you want to be tomorrow? To one person, success could be considered reaching a long term goal. For another, it may be how much money is in your bank account or how many cars you have parked in your garage. Regardless, it’s important to have a direction, without one you can never get “somewhere” because there will be no way to determine where that “somewhere” is.
There have been so many times where I’ve sat and worried that I am not where I am supposed to be, but when people asked me where I wanted to be, my answer tended to be “somewhere”… Like Alice, I didn’t have a direction. I disregarded my daily successes and focused too much on the overall picture that I wanted to fulfill. At this point in my life, that path is too big to travel, it was kind of like hiking Mount Everest after training only on Mount Monadnock.
So I changed my path to a more manageable one. Every day I aim to get a bit farther than I was the day before, even if that means I need to fall down the rabbit hole. To journey is to be human, we are always coming from somewhere and heading somewhere else. Every great adventure begins with a small step. Wandering does not mean you’re lost, sometimes you just need to see many things before you know where you need to be.